Curriculum > Youth > Year 3 > Lesson 21
CONCEPTS IN LESSON
- Review the usual / acceptable way the world thinks you should respond when hurt by
someone
- Highlight what does Jesus does in the face of the injustice done to him
- Invite students to ask God for help in forgiving others
SUPPLIES NEEDED
- Device that allows class to view this video clip (from the TV show The Office)
- Dissolving paper / paper that dissolves in water (like this – link goes to Amazon.com)
- A large bowl with water in it
- One writing utensil per individual in class (best to use pens for this)
OPENING PRAYER
OPENING QUESTION
- We start today’s class with the opening question. One of the teachers will ask the
question and then to give you some time to think of an answer, the teacher asking
the question will also answer first to give you some time to think.
- Once the teacher answers the question, we'll go around the circle.
- When it's your turn, start with your name and then answer the question to the best
of your ability.
- Here's this week's question: What is something that you consider to be an unforgivable
action?
- Note: When I did this lesson, students took the question very seriously, and really
struggled with an opposing question of “Aren’t we always supposed to forgive?” When
it was my turn to share, then, I took it in the opposite direction, naming really
small, petty things, like leaving only the ends of the bread in the bag or when a
family member puts the toilet paper on with the paper coming from the bottom – THOSE,
dear students, are unforgivable acts. You might consider doing something similar
if your students react similarly. Conversely, should your students not take the question
seriously, then I’d encourage you to set the tone in the other direction, raising
a serious matter that you find difficult to forgive.
INTRODUCTION
- Today is the last lesson in our Holy Week session.
- A quick review: First class of the session was about Jesus telling a story to the
Pharisees ABOUT the Pharisees that helped explain why they wanted to/were going to
kill Jesus: Because they wanted the vineyard (i.e. Israel) all to themselves instead
of being ok with paying the owner (i.e. God), so they mistreated anyone who spoke
for the owner (i.e. prophets and Jesus).
- Second class: Jesus is given unfair trial by Pilate (the Roman governor) who does
not find any wrong-doing by Jesus, but let's the crowd do his job and pass judgment.
The only person Pilate pronounces innocent is himself. We mostly talked about how
stress causes Pilate, the Pharisees and the Crowd to act in ways they wouldn't normally
act and how the combination of the way of the crowd and the way of the Pharisees
kills Jesus.
- These ways of thinking and acting between the crowd, Pharisees, and Pilate that Jesus
reveals all contribute to the killing of Jesus. Holy week ends with Jesus' death
and that's the story we're going to read today - the crucifixion of Jesus.
- And though I don't want to lose sight of how these choices and actions result in
killing Jesus, I want us to make sure we focus on what Jesus does in today's story.
- Because the crowd and Pharisee way of life happens every day. It's all around us,
all the time.
- And when these ways of life are at their worst, I want us to remember how Jesus responds
to it as a reminder that his choice is also available for us to make.
- To get started with today's lesson, then, I want us to watch a somewhat light-hearted
video clip from the US TV series, The Office, that shows us how the world mostly
responds to acts of injustice.
- In it, a character in that office setting, Pam, has been wronged by her boss, Michael,
in a number of ways. The biggest one being that he was dating Pam's mother and then
broke up with her on her birthday.
- The clip starts with the boss trying to make amends with his employee.
- Let's see what happens.
WATCH VIDEO CLIP
ASK – answers are in parenthesis
- What did the boss first offer his employee to make amends? (a raise)
- What did the employee choose instead? (to hit him)
- Did the employee (Pam) have second thoughts about hitting her boss? (Yes)
- What finally caused her to do it? (the boss tried to blame Pam's mom)
- Did Pam feel better after hitting her boss? (she said she didn't feel better)
- Did the rest of the office do anything to stop what was happening? (Not at all -
they even brought popcorn)
- Does that action of the office workers remind you of anything we've seen in the Jesus
stories? (very crowd-like behavior)
TELL
- When we are wronged or hurt or someone we care about is hurt, our instinct is to
hurt the person that hurt us.
- We sometimes call this "getting even."
- As the video clip shows rather well, I think, actually getting even is difficult.
- For instance, after Pam hurts her boss (even made him limp!), Pam did not feel better.
- Part of the reason she doesn't feel better is because hurting someone else does not
actually help us heal.
- And it is this healing part aspect of today's story that I want us to focus on and
talk about today.
- But first, let's read the story of what happens to Jesus after his joke of a trial
with Pontius Pilate.
READ SCRIPTURE: LUKE 23:32-53
Recommend class reads it out loud; one person per verse
Luke 23:32 Two others also, who were criminals, were led away to be put to death
with him. 33 When they came to the place that is called The Skull, they crucified
Jesus there with the criminals, one on his right and one on his left. 34 Then Jesus
said, "Father, forgive them; for they do not know what they are doing." And they
cast lots to divide his clothing. 35 And the people stood by, watching; but the leaders
scoffed at him, saying, "He saved others; let him save himself if he is the Messiah
of God, his chosen one!" 36 The soldiers also mocked him, coming up and offering
him sour wine, 37 and saying, "If you are the King of the Jews, save yourself!" 38
There was also an inscription over him, "This is the King of the Jews." 39 One of
the criminals who were hanged there kept deriding him and saying, "Are you not the
Messiah? Save yourself and us!" 40 But the other rebuked him, saying, "Do you not
fear God, since you are under the same sentence of condemnation? 41 And we indeed
have been condemned justly, for we are getting what we deserve for our deeds, but
this man has done nothing wrong." 42 Then he said, "Jesus, remember me when you come
into your kingdom." 43 He replied, "Truly I tell you, today you will be with me in
Paradise."
44 It was now about noon, and darkness came over the whole land until three in the
afternoon, 45 while the sun's light failed; and the curtain of the temple was torn
in two. 46 Then Jesus, crying with a loud voice, said, "Father, into your hands I
commend my spirit." Having said this, he breathed his last. 47 When the centurion
saw what had taken place, he praised God and said, "Certainly this man was innocent."
48 And when all the crowds who had gathered there for this spectacle saw what had
taken place, they returned home, beating their breasts. 49 But all his acquaintances,
including the women who had followed him from Galilee, stood at a distance, watching
these things.
50 Now there was a good and righteous man named Joseph, who, though a member of the
council, 51 had not agreed to their plan and action. He came from the Jewish town
of Arimathea, and he was waiting expectantly for the kingdom of God. 52 This man
went to Pilate and asked for the body of Jesus. 53 Then he took it down, wrapped
it in a linen cloth, and laid it in a rock-hewn tomb where no one had ever been laid.
ASK – answers are in parenthesis
- Is there anything you find interesting or weird about this story? [to teachers: You
don't necessarily need to answer what they notice or have questions about - sometimes
just agree with a, "yep, that's interesting" or a, "Yeah, I find that to be weird,
too" works]
- v33 - Is Jesus the only one being crucified? (No)
- v34 - In the previous two lessons, we focused on a lot of unfair things that led
to Jesus' crucifixion (Pharisees acting like thieves; crowd being easily persuaded;
Pilate finding himself innocent) Once Jesus is actually on the cross, then, what
do we hear Jesus say to God? (Jesus asks God to forgive them)
- If you were in Jesus' position, would you ask the same thing? Why?
- v34 - What do the soldiers cast lots for while Jesus is being crucified? (cast lots
to determine who gets to keep his clothing/belongings)
- v35 - What do the Pharisees and other religious leaders do while Jesus is on the
cross? (taunt him)
- v37 - What do the soldiers say to Jesus (they tell him to save himself)
- v39 - Who also mocked Jesus? (one of the criminals who was being crucified)
- v40 - Who defends Jesus? (the other crucified criminal)
- Do the actions by either criminal surprise you? Why?
- v43 - Does Jesus seem grateful for the criminal's defense? (seems so, yes)
- v47 - What does the centurion say about Jesus? (that Jesus must've been innocent)
- v50-53 - Who takes care of Jesus' body? (Joseph of Arimathea)
TELL
- Today's story is a sad and disturbing story about the world we live in.
- Jesus healed, welcomed outsiders, taught, and even fed large crowds and yet…the way
the powers of the world respond to him is to oppose him, lie about him, mock him,
and kill him.
- Thinking back to our opening question, this seems like something that could be put
on the unforgiveable list
- Which is why I think it is important that we pay attention to what Jesus does in
today's story: He asks God to forgive the people.
- Not because what the people did was ok
- But because forgiveness is how to move on - is how healing works.
- Who Jesus is shows us how powerful and beautiful a person's life can be AND how some
of the people respond to Jesus also shows us how ugly and terrible a person's life
can be.
- If we want to live a powerful and beautiful life like Jesus did, then we can't let
the ugly lives own our thoughts and action.
- We can't let that ugliness get and stay inside of us.
- Which is what forgiveness does. It helps us to expel that ugliness from inside of
us while still acknowledging that it is a force and it exists.
- This is not an easy task, which is why I think Jesus' wording is important to note.
Jesus doesn't directly forgive the people.
- Instead, he asks God to forgive them.
- In other words, forgiveness is not something we can do or manage on our own.
- We need God's help to forgive - especially the things we consider unforgivable.
EXPLAIN ACTIVITY
- I'm going to hand out some paper to you
- At the top of it, I want you to write, "Things people have done to me or others that
have hurt me or that I'm really angry about"
- Then, at the bottom of the paper, I'd like you to write, "God forgive them for they
know not what they do and help me to forgive them, too."
- For the next few minutes, I want you to either write the names and/or actions of
the things that you or others have have been hurt by or are angry about
- Note #1: I'm not saying you WILL forgive these actions. I'm saying you're asking
for help to forgive - like you're working your way towards it.
- Note #2: None of what you are writing will be seen by anyone else. You will not be
asked to share this with anyone else.
- Note #3: If you want to keep this paper, use your phone to take a picture of what
you've written or grab another piece of paper to write a second copy of it - because
we're going to do something with the paper I gave you in about five minutes.
DO WRITING EXERCISE
TELL
- [After about five minutes, give a 30 second notice to students to wrap up with their
writing]
- I don't think "forgive and forget" when taken at face value is a helpful phrase.
- But I do think "forgive and stop obsessing" is worth considering
- To forgive is to let go of the hurt and the anger
- And when we ask for God's help with forgiving, there can be a release that we experience.
- Visually, today, we offer that reminder of what forgiveness can be.
- I invite you to take the paper that you wrote on, to fold it up so that others can't
see your writing, and when you are ready, to approach this bowl of water and put
your paper in it.
- Then watch the paper and see what happens to those words of anger and hurt.
DO ACTIVITY
TELL
- Obviously, this is not a true representation of what forgiveness looks like or feels
like
- But it is a reminder that with God's help, we can move beyond even the most hurtful
and angering words and actions of others, if we so choose
- And on the other side of that letting go, there is new life. There is resurrection.
- We'll talk about that new life and resurrection in our next session of stories.
CLOSING PRAYER
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